It’s all about creating a ROADMAP
A very common limiting belief that I see a lot with women is a thought system that “I can’t be my real self or I’ll be judged.” It’s a story that we have told ourselves.
When I took my Master Coaching Training with Dr. David Krueger, a powerful shift happened for me. I was able to understand from a neuro-psychological level that changing our belief system will be challenging, it will actually, and at times cause physical pain. This happens because our brain is literally being re-wired as we make these new changes in our life. So that old saying that “change is painful” – is true.
Changing a limiting belief, a belief system that has held you back, will take time and effort on your part. You have created a story in your mind that this is “who you are” and this story has become your identity. It’s ONLY when we question and access those stories are we able to truly become WHO WE REALLY ARE.
Here is how you let it go…
Step 1 RECOGNIZE – this is the awareness step. The place where you are starting to realize that your thoughts are limiting and are keeping you stuck. You may stay here for years, but it needs to happen before you can go on to healing this negative belief.
This is the part where the light goes on – but you have not decided to go into the room to check out what’s in there. A great way to start connecting to these thoughts is through meditation.
Step 2 OWN IT: Yeah baby, you have to own that those thoughts.
The belief may have come from your childhood, from a tragedy, from someone hurting you – from anywhere – THEY ARE STILL YOURS. SO OWN THEM. They do not belong to anyone else. They are yours, because you are still thinking them.
AND IF YOU DON’T own it – then the negative experience is mastering you. When you own your thoughts, you become the master of it – and now you are ready to change.
What worked for me and many that I work with is reading this declaration of self-esteem. It was my mantra in my early twenties, as I started to realize I owned all of me. This was the true beginning of my healing.
Step 3 – ACCESS IT – This is the part where you start looking at why you are having the thoughts and begin the step of finding ways to add new positive thoughts in your mind.
If this speaks to you don’t hesitate to contact me.